- Begin with the assumption that human beings are natural communicators, and that we desire warm, close relationships with each other.
- Assume that biological /cultural/ethnic/ sexual/religious/age differences between human beings are seldom the real cause of difficulties in communication
- Assume that the real cause of such difficulties is the division and separation resulting from institutionalized imbalances in social and economic power, i.e., social oppression. The conditioning which perpetuates the divisions between us separates us into target and non-target groups.
- People who are the target group of a particular form of mistreatment are socialized to become victims; people who are the non-target group of a particular form of mistreatment are socialized to become perpetrators–either in a direct, active form or in an indirect, passive form. Neither of these roles serves our best interests as human beings.
- Assume that no one wanted these roles; no one wanted these divisions. Everyone resisted the social conditioning to take on these roles as best they could. But this conditioning clings to us and makes it difficult to see and hear each other clearly. We make unaware assumptions about what other people are thinking and feeling. We forget to check with each other and to really listen.
- Assume that issues of oppression have some connection to difficulties in communication. Assume that racism, sexism, job status, etc. figure in somewhere.
- Assume that target group people are the experts on their own experience and that they have perspective and information which non-target people need to hear.
- Assume that when everything is taken into account, every human being has communicated as clearly as they could, and in general has done the best that they could in each situation.
- Assume that in spite of the ways we have been divided, it is possible to reach through those divisions, to listen to each other well and to change habitual ways of acting which have kept us separated.
Understanding difference begins by understanding ourselves better and understanding what a human being can be like in his/her interaction with others. This theory assumes that people are born with tremendous intellectual potential, natural zest, and lovingness, but that these qualities become blocked and obscured in adults as the result of accumulated distress experiences (fear, hurt, loss, pain, anger, embarrassment, etc.) which begin early in our lives.
Any young person would recover spontaneously from such distress by use of the natural process of emotional discharge, (crying, trembling, raging, laughing, etc.) However, this natural process is usually interfered with by well-meaning people (â€œDonâ€™t cryâ€, â€œBe a big boy,â€ etc.) who erroneously equate the emotional discharge (the healing of the hurt) with the hurt itself.
When adequate emotional discharge can take place, the person is freed from the rigid pattern of behavior and feeling left by the hurt. The basic loving, cooperative, intelligent and zestful person is then free to operate. Such a person will tend to be more effective in looking out for his or her own interests and the interests of others, and will be more capable of acting successfully against injustice.
In order to gain a â€œworkableâ€ perspective on oppression we must be able to separate,
- The person from the pattern,
- Culture from oppression,
- Thinking/Feeling from restimulation.
*Restimulation — when a particular experience â€œRestimulatesâ€ an emotion, people tend to rely on patterns of behavior which have worked for them in the past.
From: Reevaluation Counseling Foundation
719 2nd Ave, North
Seattle, Washington 98109